Bullying in primary school: how to empower a child?

Bullying in primary school: how can I strengthen my child?

Our reader is worried. Her son is in second grade and is already afraid of being bullied again. How can she take her child into the next elementary school year with strength? Our experts answer.

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Parent question about bullying in primary school:

My son is in 2nd grade and is already worried about who will tease and punch him this time. Unfortunately there are many children in primary school with whom he is not so good. Through a new job, which I will soon take up, he will also be taken care of – so somehow everything is new for him. How can I bring my child strengthened into the new year? What should I do about bullying in primary school, how can I help?

Bullying in primary school – unfortunately not an isolated case

Offended, taunted, marginalized, beaten, blackmailed: the term bullying comes from the English and means translated: "Rotting up against the individual". Bullying is a form of psychological violence by a group against an individual – with the aim of being the classmate "finished" close. According to surveys and studies, experts assume that almost every third child in Germany is bullied at school. Bullying at primary schools is a particularly big problem, researchers say. (Source: stern.de)

Our experts answer:

Daniel Bialecki, Managing Director of scoyo: Looking for help!

© Daniel Bialecki What strikes me about the question is that bullying your son has obviously been an issue since the first grade. Have you already spoken specifically to the school about this?? Class teachers or counselors are the right contacts here. Without involving them directly, it will be difficult to end the bullying, if you have already spoken to the school and nothing is happening, be sure to go School board or the school psychology service. They will take you both seriously and really help you. This is particularly important because the bullying started so early and your son should go back to elementary school with a good feeling.

Otherwise you will find a few good and specific tips on how you can support your son – and what he can do to help himself. That is also very, very important.

Philippe Wampfler, teacher: Gather positive experiences, build routines

© Philippe Wampfler The question sounds as if there had been negative experiences in the past. These cannot be quickly got out of the way. It seems important to me, to collect positive experiences: At home, at school, with other children. This also makes it clear where strengths and qualities lie.

It doesn’t happen overnight. In a first step, it should help in class and in care to keep to children with whom it is possible to deal, and something like one Routine for the school day build that gives security.

Béa Beste, education entrepreneur: create beautiful moments, talk to others

© Bea Beste You both seem a bit traumatized to me by previous bullying experiences in primary school. I see several starting points on how you can make your son and yourself strong:

1. Create beautiful moments together for yourself. Just before this start, try to do nice things together that make you positive: a visit to the zoo? A little trip to a place that you both find cool? A night walk with a flashlight? Play something, bake, tinker?

2. Talk to outsiders about it. Is there someone in your family or friends who understands you well and with whom you can both talk about it? Maybe an aunt or a friend of yours – who can listen particularly well and is not prone to quick solutions? Because actually it’s not about someone giving you the problem "fixes" – but that you bring up what is stressing you and someone can ask questions from outside.

3. Let your son take a course that makes him strong. Perhaps a self-defense course is right for you. I know various programs, for example the "Cool strong kids", who do excellent work and have coaches in different cities. There you not only practice fighting – but everything you can do preventively, e.g. B. also adopt an appropriate posture that signals to others: not with me! This could be very helpful in defending yourself against bullying in primary school.

4. Talk to your son about what he likes about himself. Maybe he has to get to know himself a little and understand his lovable side before convincing others. Try to find a list with all its positive qualities. But be empathetic and listen carefully to what your son is having trouble with. Do not disagree with him. Ask him if he wants to change anything. Perhaps he has long wanted a certain kind of clothes in which he feels stronger and more comfortable .

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