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This article is about exercises for non-violent communication (CSF). As you may know, if you have dealt with this topic, the model of the CSF consists of the four points: observation, feelings, needs, and requests. These non-violent communication exercises will help you better use this conversational practice. The answers can be found at the end of the article.
Practice nonviolent communication
1st Exercise: Differences >Observation here means that you describe a specific act (or omission) without mixing it with a judgment or interpretation.
In which of the following sentences is pure observation expressed without any evaluation?
- Caro was angry with me yesterday for no reason.
- Marvin watched TV for half an hour longer than agreed.
- Leonie always comes home late.
- Stephanie is a good kid.
- It’s not until the evening before the class starts that Eric begins to learn.
- Despite three requests to end the game, Marvin continued to gamble.
- For the past three days Caro has been at school before going to school.
- Yesterday, the little ones have brushed their teeth without being asked.
- His room is total chaos.
- The two are always arguing.
Exercise 2: Express feelings
The observation triggers a sensation that is perceptible in the body and is related to one or more needs.
In which of the following sentences are feelings clearly expressed linguistically?
- I feel like you do not like me.
- I am sad that you do not come to Granny’s birthday.
- I get scared when you say that.
- I do not feel respected by you.
- I love you.
- You are so naughty.
- I feel like you do not care.
- I am so angry.
- I have a good feeling about it.
- I like the way you treat your little sister.
Exercise 3: Identifying and accepting needs
Needs are general qualities that every person on earth would like to have in their lives, such as security, understanding, contact, or meaning. Attention: solutions are not needs. Solution would be z. B .: "Do not be so loud!" Desire: "I really need some rest."
In which of the following sentences needs are comprehensibly formulated?
- You have to start learning sooner!
- Respect the other children and they will respect you.
- I want to be able to rely on you.
- Come home punctually tonight.
- I need your help at the birthday party.
- I would like to have more time to learn something besides the education of the children.
- Stop talking to me like that!
- I do not always like to be called by the teachers!
- Leave your sister alone!
- I’m hungry.
Exercise 4: Make requests
Needs often result in a request for a concrete action. Requests are different than wishes. Requests relate to actions in the now, desires are vague, refer to states (“be respectful”) or events in the future.
Which of the following sentences is clearly asked for an action to be performed?
- I want you to apologize.
- Can you please repeat what I just told you?
- Can you take care of the little one today??
- Please stop smoking.
- I want you to understand me.
- I would like to hear from you what you experienced in school today.
- I do not want you to be that loud.
- I would like you to call me if you stay with your friend.
- Please respect my privacy.
- My request to you: From now on, you can wash out the dishwasher if you notice it is full.
Answers to the Exercises of Nonviolent Communication
1. Answers: observation and evaluation
Pure observation are: 2, 5, 6, 7, 8
2. Answers: express feelings
The parent clearly expressed his feelings linguistically: 2, 3, 5, 8, 10
3. Answers: recognize and accept needs
The parent expresses his needs comprehensibly: 3, 4, 6, 8, 10
4. Answers: Pronounce requests
The parent asks for an action: 2, 3, 6, 8, 10
What’s next? Nonviolent Practice Communicating.
A swallow does not make a summer. This exercise identifies a few aspects of non-violent, healthy communication. To properly internalize these – and other skills – you need a lot of training. Similar to learning a new foreign language, practice, practice, practice.
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About the author Kay Rurainski
I love healthy communication in the parent-child relationship. Relationships make my life meaningful. Well-designed relationships improve my quality of life. Especially when I consciously create conflicts with people who are important to me. That’s why I teach the skills that support me passionately.
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