Guide for parents
In the past few weeks, three articles have been published on parenting guides. The first is about strategies for conflict resolution by Thomas Gordon. The second is about children’s education books, which in particular deal with a healthy way of dealing with children. The third and most recent blog entry is about Coaching Kids, a book on parenting that recommends interpersonal communication with children.
Guide for parents: Guides for communication with children
In the following, I would like to introduce three parenting guides that deal with the topic of communication with children. These are “Being In The Heart Of Parents” by Inbal Kashtan, “So Tell Me My Child” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish and “Nonviolent Communication” by Marshall B. Rosenberg.
Guidebook parents: "Being a parent by heart"
In "Being a parent by heart" Learn how parents manage to negotiate compromises between children’s needs and their needs so that they are respected. In particular, it is about looking beyond one’s own nose and finding out through empathic empathy what is right for the child. Following this, it is important for the child to present the reasons for his own point in a comprehensible manner, so that he also understands why it makes sense to comply with the rules. Thus, everyday conflicts are avoided, which are based on the fact that parents set up incomprehensible rules for the child, which they consequently do not adhere to. This guide for parents by Inbal Kashtan describes in an easy-to-understand language in a nutshell how one can communicate as a family without conflict.
Guidebook parents: "So I tell my child"
"So I tell my child" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish is a parenting guide that has focused on parent-child communication. The authors have packed their knowledge from the parents’ counseling and workshops in this educational guide. Her main focus is communicating with the child in a way that teaches the child a healthy sense of responsibility and self-confidence. With the aid of illustrative illustrations, this book underscores the benefits of positive communication with one’s own children. In various example situations, chapters are given examples of how one parent should communicate with the child.
Guidebook parents: "Nonviolent Communication"
This standard work by psychologist Marshall B. Rosenberg deals with productive communication – communication that arrives at the other person. If one loses himself in the dispute and sees only mistakes in the other, that is not only extremely nerve-wracking, but above all also unproductive. The interlocutors may even be offended, without the actual problem adequately debated. Rosenberg recommends in "Nonviolent Communication" a four-step conversation tactic: listening – without judging, perceiving one’s own and the other’s feelings, recognizing the deeper needs, and then finding a way to satisfy the needs of both. Sounds easy? It is. With this guide, parents can prevent a lot of conflicts with their own children and, in addition, train their communicative potential. Incidentally, there is an exercise in nonviolent communication here.
Conclusion: Knowledge – Can – Apply
All these guides provide valuable knowledge about essential issues of education, which is above all communication. Knowledge does not mean ability. And skill does not apply. That’s why I created the parent online training. In the first stage, the knowledge of skill is trained and in the second stage the application and habit in everyday life.
About the author Kay Rurainski
I love healthy communication in the parent-child relationship. Relationships make my life meaningful. Well-designed relationships improve my quality of life. Especially when I consciously create conflicts with people who are important to me. That’s why I teach the skills that support me passionately.
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