The shock when we lose a loved one, especially when it is unexpected and premature, is often so great that we can become insensitive. We cannot or do not want to realize it. We may even negate or suppress death.
In a second phase of grief we are overwhelmed by a wide range of emotions. Outbursts of feeling such as Anger and anger, or feelings of guilt overwhelm us.
After that, we waver between suppression of death and acceptance of loss. We find sadness and comfort by remembering the deceased. We do this not only in conversations with other survivors, but also, especially when we do something that was done together earlier, with inner conversation or dialogue, and sometimes at night with dreams. Seeking this contact helps to complete and say goodbye and should lead to the next phase.
Here we accept death and prepare for our personal new beginning. We are ready to reshape our lives.
These phases are perceived to be of different lengths, depending on the willingness to consciously experience, accept and allow them, without overwhelming and rendering us unfit for life.
Our grief and sadness makes us aware of what we miss, what we long for and what we lack. We deal with the impermanence and our own limits and realize that we cannot control or change everything. These are painful processes in which we would rather like to think differently. But by suppressing or dubbing, we will never recognize the power that is in us.
Some Bach flowers examples:
Rescue: In the beginning, rescue can help up the feelings better are to be interpreted
Star of Bethlehem: Heartbroken – with every shock & Trauma especially when death occurs unexpectedly.
Sweet chestnut: hopeless – with grief grief & deep torments of soul that appear without end, despite attempts to cope.
Agrimony: Suppression – where feelings are hidden behind a ‘brave’ facade compared to others, sometimes with distracting activities.
Rock Water: Denial of emotions: to maintain a certain standard of behavior with oneself and towards others in the case of strong self-control.
Honeysuckle: Wistfulness, longing for the past "It will never be as beautiful as it was," prevents life & Actions in the present.
Holly: Aggressiveness – sensitivity, quick anger – anger and anger at others or even at the deceased themselves.
Willow: Despondent to bitterness – left alone there is no constructive structuring of his life from the perspective of the person concerned and the annoying situation.
Pine: Feelings of guilt – self-reproaches for past or present behavior or what we consider to be ‘inappropriate’ feelings.
Clematis: Mentally absent – escape in a more beautiful dream world of the future, – possibly meeting & speak with the dead
White Chestnut: No mental calm – talk to yourself – deepening in worrying, often repetitive thoughts that cannot be shaken off.
Walnut: stabilizing for large ones amendments in life. Protection from obstacles to reshape life.
And if you are
you will be glad,
to have known me.
With the death of a person you lose a lot –
but never, the time spent with him.
With my best wishes
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The English doctor Dr. Edward Bach prepared the 38 original Bach flowers from the flowers of wild plants and trees in the 1930s. They serve to stabilize the mental balance and support preventive measures to maintain health. You can apply Bach flowers individually or put together a flower mix with up to 7 different flowers, which is adapted to your current emotional state.
Water glass method
Put two drops (from Rescue always four drops or two sprays) of the selected flower (up to seven if necessary) in a glass of water and drink in sips. You can use any other drink instead of water, e.g. Juice or tea. Prepare a drink as many times until you feel noticeably better.
For a longer intake of a Bach flower mixture, as above, two drops of each selected flower (max. Seven) are placed in a 30ml pipette bottle and filled up with still water. Take four drops at least four times a day.
Bach flowers have no side effects or interactions, are not addictive and cannot be overdosed. And no restrictions or changes in your diet are necessary.
So you can take your Bach flowers for as long and as often as you need
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