You have to sing with children – there is no excuse!
Monday, 8:15 a.m. in kindergarten: Parents and children gather together in the hallway, sometimes sleepy, sometimes happy, sometimes interested, sometimes devoted, to sing together.
For a quarter of an hour we sing songs that suit the season – with our only half-awake morning voices, for whom the guitar tones are mostly a real challenge …
Some sing loudly, some softly, some voices growl deeply, some warble brightly Frühlingslieder to play the guitar with the teacher. And some prefer not to sing along – unfortunately. But why not?!
Singing is actually something that has always been part of our human culture – for tens of thousands of years. As a means of history tell and handed down, as entertainment for the community, as a spiritual art form and last but not least (maybe even first of all, some evolutionists say), to calm the children who were not being worn on the body. No wonder actually that statistically, 98% of all people have basic music.
Many will now regretfully shake their heads and think, "Well, I’m definitely not one of them as I sing!"
But here, unfortunately, the rabbit is in the pepper today.
Because almost everyone who claims to be “unmusical” or cannot sing does not lack the gene that makes music, but simply lacks it Experience and practice.
Because in order to be able to use our body’s own instrument, you have to familiarize yourself with it! You have to use and research it, and that’s exactly what little children do with great enthusiasm (as with everything else).
If you look at the biographies of professional musicians, almost everyone has in common that they came into contact with music in their early childhood, and in a positive way. Be it through reinforcement and positive resonance in the family or through teachers and educators. And without exception, a lot was sung!
Do all have to be professional musicians now? No way!
But to allow singing as a basic human need, as a means of expression, for a feeling of togetherness – we need that!
When I look at my (adult) singing students who come to me because they want to finally learn to sing, they often have one thing in common:
In childhood they were punished for singing – either with comments on the lack of quality, a lack of talent ("But that’s not how it gets with my singing career!" "My drill sounds better!"), Or because the singing was annoying ("Pst, dad / grandma / the baby is sleeping after all.) ! "" Be quiet, I’m listening here! ").
Brummers are pushed into the last row
The term “elementary school trauma” is unfortunately a fixture in vocal pedagogical circles – above all so-called "hums" when singing in school class stop singing completely, because they are taught that they are not good enough to sing along. The pushing back into the last row, the "being a music stand" – all this prevents these children from discovering their voice and using it freely.
The joy and relaxation that singing brings about – regardless of the quality level you practice it – and of course last but not least the feeling of belonging, remains closed to you for life.
We don’t have to be all soloists
The trend of casting shows reinforces this phenomenon and extends it to adults: Only those who can inspire the audience on stage can actually sing. And millions of viewers sit on TV without any specialist expertise and judge who can and who needs to be quickly voted out. A bunch of brave soloists who are judged by non-singers.
What does that do in our heads? As a result, how do we think about our own singing? Because: As we think about others, we always think about ourselves, if not more critically!
Few of us feel with the Thoughts, you could hear them singing! "Not good enough" flashes in our head – and we prefer not to sing along. Or just very, very quietly.
A culture of not singing – let’s do that?!
But what picture does that convey to our children?
That "we" don’t sing. That this is something that is reserved for professionals. We are currently breeding a culture of non-singers. We prevent the musical development of our children by showing them that you don’t do something like that!
That may sound extreme, but if you think about it exactly: children adopt the behaviors of their closest caregivers. It doesn’t help if we bring them to early musical education once a week so that they become "smarter". If we force them to take instrumental lessons at 8 or 9, so that the ability to learn and concentrate is improved. These are just drops in the bucket.
Singing is emotional expression
And it is not enough to just run CDs with children’s songs. Even babies are fixated on the individual vocal sound of their attachment figures, and Singing exposes the full emotional range of these voices. Singing is as melodic as laughing and crying at the same time and shows the little ones how to express emotions. And observing mouth movements (as well as reading aloud) promotes learning the mother tongue articulation.
Singing makes you happy, this is not only tangible, but also scientifically proven.
Children who sing later have an easier time learning an instrument.
Children who sing have a much higher level of language proficiency (this applies especially to foreign languages!) Than children who do not sing.
Children who sing together learn to take care of each other and to cooperate.
Parents who sing with their children do not need musical training.
Parents who sing with their children learn musical skills with their children.
Parents who sing with their children (no matter how good or right or "wrong") enable their child to develop musically, which is one more tool to lead a happy, self-determined life.
please jump over your shadow and sing with your children.
Sing as loud and beautiful as possible on Mondays at 8.15 a.m. Or at 7 a.m. in the car!
And keep saying it! Tell your families, grandparents, aunts and uncles of your children. Your friends, soccer colleagues and other mothers doing gymnastics.
Let’s create a culture where singing is as natural to everyone as eating, sleeping and talking.
Sings while cooking, washing up, cleaning up, in the car, in the shower, while hiking, in the playground, brushing teeth, in the choir and in the football stadium and in the karaoke bar.
You don’t have to learn it, you can. For real.
You just have to allow yourself and just do it.
I wish you lots and lots of fun and joy (and a bit of courage)!
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