Violence among siblings in everyday family life

Gertrud Ennulate

Sibling relationships are rich in conflicts involving verbal, hidden and physical violence. I will ask about the causes of their occurrence, but I will also look for reasons why these acts of violence are important for the children involved and why they are tacitly tolerated or condemned by mothers and fathers. Sibling violence has a role in the socialization of children in the family. The corresponding occurrences are not forgotten for a lifetime, sometimes only clarified in adulthood, sometimes never.

Everyday life with children: how i manage to stay patient and loving

April 5, 2018

Everyday life with children: how I manage to stay patient and loving

So here is my personal 14 point strategy:

1. Rethink values and priorities

What is important to me? What can I do without? What feels good What makes me happy?

2. Make a clear decision

I can only change if I set my sights firmly on something and really want it.

3. Visualize how I want to be

For this I always imagined what the person should look like to whom I would turn with grief. The person whose shoulder I would like to cry on.

4. Feel within me

I am loving, only sometimes I close my heart when I am afraid or feel attacked. Then I close emotionally. That is why I always try to feel myself in my “warm sides” so that they are more present in conflict situations. I watch what that means to me (my words & my behavior) and what it does to my counterpart.