You are unconditionally valuable

Peri Soylu May 12, 2017 God, goodness, heart, love, love, perfectionist, trust Comment

When exactly I realized that I made my value dependent on how I look and how I compare materially to others, I do not remember. But the good thing is that I recognized the pattern at some point. When you recognize a pattern, it is always the first step to be able to change something that is recurring that is no longer useful to you. Because you can only change things that you become aware of – of course, only if you want and are ready.

Making comparisons and linking my happiness to conditions that had not yet occurred led me to a constant sense of dissatisfaction. I did not want to allow myself to be valuable, content and happy. In my opinion, I still did not have everything that belonged to being a happy and valuable person.

“Valuable now. Not if. Not at some point. We all deserve love and belonging now. Just like us. “

As it often happened to me in the past, many people still experience it today: we often look for our happiness and our value in the outside world. We can only be satisfied when we lose another five kilograms, drive the right car, have the dream job, earn enough money, live in a relationship, etc. All these things have in common that we make our luck on a condition in the future. How should we ever be happy? My suggestion: The best thing to do is to wait for the day when everything is as you think it would be perfect, let go and just start living now and just being happy for no reason. Simply happy? Maybe it sounds crazy to you and maybe you think: “Peri is crazy!” But let’s be honest, we often manage to go through the day with bad moods without reason. Why not the other way around? What is there to lose? The bad mood, for example?

There is always always a reason to be grateful and happy.

Actually, there is always a reason to be happy. Reasons need not always be in the category of miracles to appreciate them. There are so many things that we take for granted that are not at all: a home, a self-determined life, people who like one, family, friends, sunshine, a pet, something to eat, health, running water, social security, nature, etc. For you, that may be self-evident, but it is not. Appreciation always begins best with being content with where you are and what you have. If you have satisfaction for the here and now, then there are still moments for which you can have satisfaction. Happiness comes when you allow yourself to see how good things are already in your life and that you do not have to give anything from the outside to be valuable. You are a child of the universe. There is so much potential in you and so much wonderful, you just have to let it happen. To be valuable is your birthright.

Bad news for all perfectionists: There is no perfect one and you’ll probably never be quite ready to strive for something new. That basically makes our existence. If we were finished and perfect, we would not have to be humans. The whole idea of human existence is not based on being perfect, but on learning and growing. Probably your inner critic sees it differently, but above all one thing does not make one listen: happy.

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