The child in you must find a home
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A very interesting book!
Cover: An empty net is shown here simply and appropriately. Suitable because it reflects the topic and super and aptly includes the content. Writing style: Pleasant, which surprised me a lot. There are also some technical terms that have left me with a few question marks, but it worked and the content could still be understood. Opinion: I am pleasantly surprised. I found the book very interesting and instructive, because it provided some enlightenment for me and brought moments of awe. I also found the examples given to be very well chosen from everyday life. SO you could identify with it much better and project it onto yourself. I have deeply internalized the teaching of the shadow and sun child for myself and am trying to deal with it more consciously. In some places, however, the book became too much for me. I noticed how I couldn’t really record the content anymore because it was too deep-psychological and I couldn’t quite grasp some of it. But all in all a very informative and interesting book from which I could take a few things. Conclusion: I think I will soon try other books by the author.
Finally being me!
We long to be accepted and loved. Ideally, we learn the necessary self-confidence and basic trust in our childhood, this allows us to go through life calmly as adults. But we often find insults and injuries in us. They unconsciously influence and disrupt our relationships. First accept the shadow child … But we can change our programmed behaviors. With "The child in you must find a home" Stefanie Stahl has developed an effective approach to working with the "inner child". She discovered the shadow child and sun child in us. First we look at our injured shadow child with all its negative beliefs and the resulting feelings. We can make our peace with him through simple exercises. … then discover our sun child In the second step we turn to our sun child. It symbolizes our life-centered essence, which makes us happy and strong in life. In the introductory chapters we receive a lot of important basic information and are slowly being introduced to working with the "inner child". I found this very relaxing because not only was knowledge imparted to me, but the author showed great benevolence. Her writing style is always directed towards the reader and lets them decide what is right for them. Stefanie Stahl leads us step by step through the process of cognition to the change of our own self-perception. She deliberately addresses the reader with "YOU", "Because our inner child reacts to you. But not on you. ”Quote, page 17 This enabled me to slowly approach the process of opening and recognizing. It can be painful to look at your shadow child. But once you’ve gone through the process, the result – realizing what a shining sun child you are – is definitely worth it. Catch yourself! The basis of any change is that we become aware of the current state and first accept it as a fact. This only happens when we take the observer position. With this outside view of ourselves, we can see what is playing with us. And then solutions fall into our hands almost by themselves. As your own beliefs and beliefs slowly change and lead to new insights, the life and relationships we lead can be guided in painless and happy ways. I was guided through this book step by step. I was allowed to discover and accept my shadow child attentively. So the sun child was able to develop and show me "I can be ME!" Conclusion: For all those who have problems with their emotional world and want to look at and change themselves, this book offers a good opportunity to change through many exercises.
Understandable guide that gives you many eye-opening experiences.
The book begins with a reference to download a meditation. For the intensive work with the inner child, the author Stefanie Stahl spoke in two fantasy trips that can be downloaded directly from Kailash Verlag. The author (qualified psychologist) has presented a book here that presents complex psychological issues in such a way that they can be understood and thus used. This claim to intelligibility and pragmatism permeates the entire book and is shown, for example, in the chapter "Models of our personality", in which it describes how the personal parts of people are divided: there are child and adult parts on the conscious and unconscious level of ours Psyche. Anyone who knows this structure can work with it and solve problems. That’s what this book is about. The term "inner child" is a metaphor. It stands for the unconscious parts of the personality that were shaped in our childhood. And there is another metaphor: the "inner adult", an inner instance that encompasses our rational and sensible mind, that is, thinking. Many other therapeutic approaches work with this model, which differentiate even further than steel (p. 19). Stefanie Stahl recognized in her practical work that, in her opinion, only three instances are completely sufficient to solve problems: the cheerful inner child, the injured inner child and the inner adult, a model that is understandable and quick to memorize. With this uncomplicated and pragmatic approach, the author manages to appeal to a broad readership, which is reflected in the edition (the book has now appeared in its 7th edition). The book can also be found on the Spiegel bestseller list, which proves its great popularity. The book focuses on the beliefs that everyone has, their feelings and their individually developed suitable protection strategies. The strategies of the shadow child have an effect into adult life. Recognizing and understanding them opens up the healing process, followed by practicing a different point of view, a different understanding and new beliefs that go hand in hand with feelings. Numerous exercises show how protection strategies can become treasure strategies. The author provides numerous measures that regulate perception, thoughts and feelings in order to get into the powerful state of the sun child as often as possible or to act in the state of a sensible adult. In everyday life, it will always be a matter of resolving negative imprints and beliefs and the associated projections and distortions of perception and being replaced by sensible treasure strategies. She invites (and demonstrates exercises) to "catch yourself" again and again, to differentiate between fact and interpretation and to continually do a reality check to find a good balance between reflection and distraction, to be honest with yourself (affirmative acceptance reality) and adopting an attitude of benevolence (praise of your neighbor as yourself). It is important to enjoy life, to be authentic instead of being “dear child”, to be capable of conflict and to shape one’s relationships. You can practice to know when it is good, how it is, when to let go, and how to learn to listen empathetically. You can also set healthy limits and learn to say "No" and to trust yourself and life. There are exercises to regulate the feelings of an impulsive shadow child and you learn a little lesson in quick wit, and in the author’s opinion it is allowed to disappoint! And last but not least, it’s about overcoming your own sluggishness and taking action against slideritis and your own resistance in seven steps. The goal is to find your personal protection strategies and to integrate shadow and sun children and thus allow yourself to be yourself! The book has meanwhile also been published as an audio book by Arkana Verlag and there is a work book from Kailash Verlag. I would like to make a critical remark: this clear and pragmatic way of mediation could lead one to believe that there are simple, quick solutions. Whoever believes that is wrong. Change is possible, but it takes a long way and good technical support, not only in the use of the numerous exercises, but also in getting involved at all and gaining sustainable knowledge. I dare to doubt whether this can be done “alone”. Conclusion: The author Stefanie Stahl shares in her extensive knowledge and experience. Her understandable style, her clear no-frills language and the comprehensible structure she developed make psychological phenomena understandable and thus tangible. Solutions can be found using numerous exercises. As a reader, I had numerous eye-opening experiences and insights that other psychological books lack due to their elaborate language. Her target group is not only laypersons, she is also noticed in specialist circles.
The child in you must find a home
"The child in you must find a home" is a beautiful book. Everyone has a shadow child and a sun child, which was shaped by childhood. Not every childhood was beautiful and this book helps you to deal with it. You learn a lot about the different types of people and why they sometimes react and how. And of course something about yourself. I had a normal childhood personally. There is nothing I can say explicitly that my parents did something wrong or that I didn’t feel loved. Nevertheless, I really wanted to read this book in order to understand my fellow human beings better. Some experiences are also stored in the subconscious and you do not think of them at first, but still act according to these experiences. This book is for everyone who wants to get to know themselves (or their fellow human beings) better. It is a small guide to get to know yourself better.
Find the sun child in you!
In her guide "The child in you must find a home" Stefanie Stahl explains with ease how to call your shadow child – this is what she calls the inner child, who had negative experiences in his early childhood and adopted them in his adult life can cheer up and thus find the sun child again. By associating the inner child with the shadow child and the sun child, it was possible to familiarize yourself very well with the individual thoughts of the psychologist. In this book, she first goes into the theoretical foundations of this topic: the models of our personality; The development of the inner child; their definitions of the shadow and sun child; Self-knowledge; the four basic psychological needs and the mental needs of a person. I found the beginning a bit dry, but very helpful for the further course and understanding. Then she defines the meaning of the shadow child and how you can practically recognize it in yourself. Stefanie Stahl always gives the reader very precise examples from her sessions and therapy sessions. I find this aspect particularly good in her book, since this topic is so much better illustrated and made understandable. Furthermore, she suggests some practical tasks that everyone can do individually and thus find their own shadow child. In the cover of the book she gives some examples of this and you can use it as a guide. I have to say that you can repeat these application tasks at any time if you think that the shadow child deserves a lot of attention. Since the shadow child has a negative connotation and is often due to bad moods and arguments, the aim of this book is that the sun child takes the place of the shadow child. Stefanie Stahl therefore particularly addresses the sun child and defines the term here too. The key point here is finding the beliefs and changing or strengthening them. With the help of a few exercises, negative beliefs belonging to the shadow child can be replaced by positive beliefs. These methods have helped me a lot to be more positive in some ways and not to ignore my inner child, but to work on growing up. It all sounds strange at first, but Stefanie Stahl gives great help and makes the whole thing very plausible. In the end, she gives you some strategies along the way that you can always use for everyday life. I personally would definitely like to apply these “protection strategies” and include them in my thoughts. The author’s writing style is light and easy and you often get the feeling that she is in direct contact with you. It always speaks to you with "you" and literally prompts you to become active. This writing style is extremely motivating, because you just feel addressed and understood. The subtitle quite rightly says that this book helps to find the key FAST of all problems. Of course, this is not just a matter of reading the book, because to get to know your inner child and thus come to the key to many problems, you also have to invest a little time. After all, nothing doesn’t come from nothing. Still, I can only advise anyone who thinks that he needs to be a little more positive and maybe his inner, bitchy child has still not gotten rid of this book. This book has really given me a lot. I was able to deal intensively with my inner self and also learn a lot about myself. Still, it takes a lot of work and effort to find the key to all of his problems. I cannot say that my life has changed fundamentally through this book, but I was able to take many helpful tips with me and will probably still leaf through this book many times and let my sun child in!
The title promises a lot and overall the book does what it promises for me. I expected that the writing style might not be completely fluid. But that was not the case. The author has a very fluid writing style and has not used any technical terms that have disturbed the flow of reading. I don’t necessarily want to emphasize whether one has happier relationships through the book through basic trust. However, with the help of the book you can reflect well on your behavior and some solutions are offered. I really liked the structure and so if you want to work effectively on yourself, you won’t be overwhelmed. Sometimes I found the book a bit lengthy and peppered with many repetitions. Perhaps it was meant to be helpful, for some sections it encouraged me to read from the side. I really liked the book and it is not for nothing that it is high on sales lists. A really good book that helps you if you want to work on yourself. I award 4 stars.
Intensive engagement with the inner child
At first I was just curious about the book. But after reading, or rather that "intensive work" (because the book not only contains interesting reading material, but also lots of practical exercises), I became a real fan. I would almost like to say: If you are NOT concerned with your inner child, you are missing out on tracking down its sunny and dark sides and thus giving your life a better direction. It is about self-care, the responsibility that everyone should take on for their actions and actions and also about contact with their own hearts and the conscious feeling of repressed feelings. Anyone can learn something from this book if they want to find out more about themselves. It is also a good support that can use a few tangible clues on its spiritual path. Above all, after reading this book, you will have a little more peace with yourself, which will ultimately also benefit your partner, family and fellow human beings. Meanwhile it is closed "The child in you must find a home" a workbook with worksheets was also published, as was the sequel "Everyone is relatable". In it, Stephanie Stahl describes in the usual succinct yet loving way how to manage harmonious relationships. Knowledge about your own shadow and sun child helps! All books are highly recommended!
I’m not sure
Since I suffer from attachment anxiety and (co-) dependency in relationships, I jumped hopefully on Ms. Stahl’s new book. Unfortunately it didn’t convince me at all. There are definitely better books that have been around for a long time and are highly recommended. In addition, I noticed that many passages resemble those from the books by Erika Chopich and Margaret Paul. Both therapists have been treating the inner child for over 20 years. Because in the USA and in Germany, this topic is not new at all! That is why I cannot understand the hype surrounding this book, which is also not very convincing in the important emotional work. My conclusion: The book is extremely well marketed, but in no way meets the requirements for the therapy of the inner child that it needs. If the therapist claims in an interview that "normally disturbed" To be able to heal herself only with the help of her books, that seems to me to be dubious and unprofessional.
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